Getting a Baby to Sleep
14 Nov 12 - By TheRazzLine - Compilation
We can’t believe the amount of responses we received from a question on how to get a baby to sleep! We really appreciate everyone's suggestions and hope this helps anyone in need!
Getting a Baby to Sleep
Implementing a routine before bedtime (bath, story, Nerve Assist from the book Assists for Illnesses and Injuries by L. Ron Hubbard). Playing music while he sleeps helps him to fall asleep and blocks any background noise. I also drink CalMag before bed and that seems to help A LOT. The one night I didn’t do that, he was up until almost midnight.
Also, making sure he’s stimulated during the day and exerts his energy - playing, going outside and going for walks, etc. I am taking my baby to the chiropractor this week so that will probably help as well.
A WONDERFUL book I recommend is the No Cry Sleep Solution. It has great ideas of different ways to help your baby sleep at night. Also, any book by Dr. Sears.
I would say the key is getting him to fall asleep on his own (meaning not by rocking or nursing). The “cry it out” method gets your baby to do this but not in a very loving or gentle way. The No Cry Sleep Solution has a great method for doing this. Basically just get him very drowsy and put him down and pat his tummy and tell him it’s time to go to sleep. If it doesn’t work, just pick him up and try again. If he gets upset, just put him to sleep your normal way and try again tomorrow. The slower and more gradual it is, the happier your baby will be about it and the more it will be on his own determinism.
Also, something I read is that if he’s falling asleep on his own for his initial bedtime, eventually he will stop waking up in the middle of the night because he knows how to fall back asleep by himself (unless of course he is hungry or something else is wrong). Co-sleeping is also a wonderful solution if that is something you want to do. I remember the first night my baby slept with me, he woke up the next morning happier than I had ever seen him.
Get the biggest bed you can possibly get. Both you and the baby can drink Cal Mag (which might make for a more restful sleep) I breastfed for quite a long time. We had a family bed but it was BIG. You can also just get a kind of crib/bed that attaches to your bed and then the baby can be very close. I do NOT believing in letting them "cry it out” although there was a point that I did try it and I feel that it is just the most horrible thing to do to your child. But, as I said, I also believed in a family bed. No matter what you do right now you will be sleep deprived; it's part of being a mom. Enjoy this time with your child!
Yes, the "crying it out" thing is not so great... but it's totally normal for them to get up all the time. Unfortunately, this is really normal for about the first year! That's why mothers always look exhausted.
Ideally, the plan should be:
a) Find a cushy job that will still pay you while you hang out with your gorgeous new baby, sleep all day and do errands
b) Eat plenty, take vitamins, and nap whenever possible. But I know that's most likely impossible.
So, here is a more realistic plan:
a) Try getting a comfy cot, small couch, or a bigger bed (Craigslist is great for these cheap items) so that you or your husband can trade places and still get your own space/sleep.
b) Feed your baby L. Ron Hubbard's barley formula. It helps calm them down a lot.
c) babies LOVE Touch Assists (from the book Assists for Illnesses and Injuries), use the commands just like normal, they duplicate you completely. We used it on our youngest boy the most, and he loved the personal touch and communication of it. If you're half dead asleep you can just whisper; they still get you.
d) Sometimes you just have to snuggle more and wing it through the sleepless hours. I know it really sucks sometimes, but just flow them your love and you all make it through in the end. :) Hope this helps.
When my baby was starting to teethe, he had some trouble sleeping. I didn't breast feed, I pumped and he drank breast milk from a bottle. I added 2 different homeopathic remedies to his night time bottle. One was called chamomilla, and I can't remember the other one, but it was to handle sleeplessness in children and the other was to handle nervousness for children. If you go to a store where they have this, they are in little blue tubes with white labels and they are little white balls. They say on the tubes what it handles. These worked really well! Hope that helps! PS: A Nerve Assist before bed also works well.
Have you tried a night light? And maybe have the crib near your bed.
I wonder if it might be time to start on solids. It sounds to me like he might be hungry and you can start in on solids at 4 months. Try adding an avocado to the diet. Nothing else for a week, just a little avocado (I think it is the best starter food). You could also try a banana, but whatever you try you shouldn't add anything else for a week. When my daughter was a baby I discovered she did better in the crib at about 4 months; she wasn't doing well with me in the bed. There are other alternatives though. Maybe a co-sleeper would help you. You can attach it to the side of the bed and it allows you to have him near you without having him in the bed.
Are you drinking enough water so you have enough milk? Your baby may need an adjustment from a chiropractor.
I had the exact same problem! I recommend getting started on some foods, even just baby cereal so he is not so hungry. My son didn't sleep for more than 1.5 hours any given time until I got him on cereal at 3.5 months.
If you are still breast feeding, try taking more Cal Mag yourself, Peter Gillham's Calm is great. Make the bed time routine theta and put him to bed when awake so he can learn to fall asleep. I ended up letting my son cry a bit when he was a few months older... But it depended on the type of cry. If your baby is hungry, crying it out is just silly!
Lastly, I highly recommend having him adjusted by a chiropractor. Baby adjustments are gentle and help for relaxing. Oh, and Nerve Assists regularly!
I breastfed three of my own, and had sleeping problems with my third (the only boy). He would NEVER agree to sleep in his crib for any length of time, and he slept with my husband and me for the first several months. He is also the only child who rarely EVER took naps. I tell you this because, as you will find for yourself, each child is different and what works for one doesn't necessarily work for another. My husband actually spent more than a few nights on the couch so that everyone could get a good night's sleep. I don't suggest this as a long term solution, but any problem is going to be easier to solve if you've had a good night's sleep!
It's also possible that something you are eating/drinking is causing the baby to be restless in his sleep. I remember finding out the hard way that when I ate chocolate my son became a little "wired". You may already have started eliminating foods from your diet for this reason.
Environmental factors can also contribute to his light sleep; too much stimulation during the day, too much TV in the background, etc. I tried out of sheer desperation to let him "cry it out," exactly once. I do not recommend it. I can see that if I had been able to stand it, and had left him in his crib a little longer he would have exhausted himself and ultimately fallen into complete apathy and thus to sleep, but who wants to do that?? Remember that this too, will pass.
Everything can be more frustrating when you're sleep deprived, so getting a good night's sleep should be a priority for all of you. For that reason the husband-on-the-couch thing, while not a long term solution, can help you get clear-headed enough to solve it. Good luck and congratulations on your new baby!
This worked for us! We started late and the baby didn’t seem to like it and let us know his displeasure. After a few days the baby loved it and would go to sleep right away after being swaddled. Hope this helps. My wife was trained by an old American Indian lady that was like a medicine woman to the tribe. This is what they had been doing with their children for 100’s of years.
I have three kids and I understand how you feel! For all 3 of my kids I had to get up every 2 hours for breastfeeding. They were just hungry during the night and I did it for over 5 years.
Each kid is different and you need to learn that getting to know him is the best way to find a routine that will work for both of you. I am not an expert on this but in my experience I understood that my breast milk wasn't enough to feed the kid all night beside the fact that some kids, as myself, like to feel the heat of another body to be able to sleep better or even all night. Good luck!
Are you familiar with the Barley Formula? Both of my daughters had babies recently. One is 6 months old and the other is 2 months old. I have helped each of them a lot so I've seen what's gone on with both babies. They both started off just breast feeding, which is great, but some times babies don't seem to get enough nourishment on that alone. As soon as both babies went on the barley formula (they kept doing some breastfeeding too) things really changed. The 2 month old sleeps almost all night, with 2 brief wake ups, and she sleeps all day too for that matter :-) The 6 month old sleeps much better now as well! This would be my suggestion to you. Good luck!
Congratulations on your baby!!! We have a son who is just 9 weeks, and he's sleeping almost 5 hours a night straight. We are feeding him barley formula only. Also, get Adele Davis' book "Let's Have Healthy Children". She covers a lot of what you can do for your baby’s diet and especially yours as you are breastfeeding. She strongly supports breastfeeding. She does NOT have a cry-it-out attitude. I hope that helps.
Some things that have worked in the past for sleeplessness are:
A) Cal Mag
C) a Touch Assist or Nerve Assist before bed.
I have two grown kids and both were breast fed, but that milk is of a watery consistency and disappears in the stomach quickly. Once they were 4 months they were old enough to start eating baby cereal (flakes or powder you mix with milk or water). This is like fine oatmeal and “sticks to the ribs”.
Both babies started sleeping through the night if they were fed before bedtime and sometimes a midnight snack was needed. But they were just hungry! Even though my daughter breast fed for 1 ½ years, it’s good to remember that dietary needs change monthly with infants. My son stopped breast feeding himself at 6 months because it just wasn’t enough. My brother screamed through the night until my mom’s doctor told her to FEED him (she was breast feeding only). He was fine after that. Hope this helps.
I put the crib next to my bed and took off one side. I made it even with the mattress that way my baby has her own space and I can feed her during the night while getting sleep. Also when I gave her a pillow she started sleeping all night. They also have Baby Calm at Peter Gillham's which is Cal Mag for babies.
1. Make sure that the baby is very stimulated during the day. Take him on lots of walks and make sure that he is not sleeping too much later in the day. Do things that keep him awake and happy. Play with him a lot. Lots of exercise. He will sleep better at night.
2. Take him to the chiropractor to get an adjustment.
3. Give him Nerve Assists and Body Communication Assists (both from Assists for Illnesses and Injuries by L. Ron Hubbard). The body can have pains from growing.
4. I suggest that you don’t use a crib. It looks like a jail, and is far away from you. (Sorry) BUT get a single mattress, put it in your bedroom so you (or your husband) and the baby can sleep on the single.
5. Make sure that you are not eating foods that are known to irritate babies. Watch if he has more trouble after you have broccoli or certain other foods. Avoid sugar and caffeine. My children only breastfed until they were well over 6 months and I suggest that for all babies. I don’t suggest the barley formula, which I am sure you will get suggestions to switch to.
6. Also, realize that one of the duties of a mom is to be up with the baby at night so if that happens try not to be upset by it and try to be used to sleeping during the day when he sleeps. It is normal for parents to be tired when they have a baby in the house.
7. Make sure that your home is not too hot or too cold and that his clothes are comfortable. If he has a rash or is sick, it is common to not sleep.
8. Is anything waking him? Noises around the area? Maybe try some light music playing while he sleeps or a fan noise or something.
We used a smaller bed in our bedroom for our boy. He slept right next to us in his bed. That was nice but he was older than 4 months, so I'm not sure if this will have the same "comforting" effect that it did on an older child. I did the cry-it-out thing a couple of times with my kids and what I did so that it wasn't too bad was I set a limit. I said, "Ok, I will let him cry for 15 minutes, then I will stop it." That worked every time. It wasn't bad at all, and in the end was SO worth it.
I am a nanny for a family that uses the video The Happiest Baby on the Block. It works so well it’s crazy. The baby sleeps 8 hours. You have to evaluate the data though because some is weird. Start with a loud noise machine of white noise, swinging the baby in a swing at bedtime, and swaddling the baby so he doesn't wake himself up.
I don't like having my son cry it out. I feel his crying is his way of communicating, and letting him cry it out was ignoring him.
He's now 10 months old and still doesn't sleep through the night. He co-sleeps and is almost to the point where he can entirely help himself to nurse. That was my doctor's recommendation: get him to a point where he can help himself and then you won't have to wake up entirely. It means co-sleeping, and since we also seemed squashed for space, I brought his crib over as a co-sleeper on my side of the bed. When he's done nursing he rolls into his crib to sleep most of the time, only occasionally staying by me. Nights when teething is hard is a different story, but for the most part it's not too bad.
La Leche League mentions that because breast milk assimilates fast, it's not uncommon for babies to wake up every few hours. I guess the only thing that puzzled me was how JJ could sleep for 3 hours on his own during the day (naptime) and wanted to be up every hour at night. Maybe you should contact a La Leche League Leader - she may have great pointers that don't involve crying it out.
My son would only sleep for 1 hour or so we had him sleep with us, then brought him back to the crib, back and forth. Then we decided to read up on what L. Ron Hubbard says about babies. You need to read about the barley formula!
We discovered there are really only 3 reasons babies cry at any time: 1) They are hurt or hurting, which you can establish by observing.
2) they are soiled.
3) THEY ARE HUNGRY!!!
We switched to the barley formula and we saw first hand an immediate difference; now the baby would gobble up the bottle and drink huge amounts like never before. We realized HE WAS STARVING ALL THE TIME!
He started to gradually sleep more and more, but I'd say that within 2 months, he was sleeping the whole night in his crib.
It became very simple: baby crying 1) check diaper; if clean feed him lots of the formula until he has had his fill.
I feel for you! I have three kids (nearly grown now) and none of them slept very well. But one thing that helped was to leave a bottle or two in the crib that they could grab. It would be mostly water and a drop of apple juice or something. I know you are breast feeding now but this might be something to get into - in order to survive!! :)
I have no idea if what works for a 10 month old will work for a 4 month old but..... my friend puts her son on a pretty standard schedule everyday of when he eats, when he sleeps etc. and he would sleep through the night which I thought was amazing! For the most part we kept to the schedule as laid out and not only did he sleep through the night but he was such a happy baby.
This worked with all 3 of our kids: when first born and nursing, they slept close by or in bed with us. Our firstborn would wake every hour and feeding her was the only way to get her back to sleep; she got very fat! Finally, an experienced mom friend told us to put her in her own room and shut the door! We did that and sure enough she cried, but our friend said to wait for 3 minutes, (about the length of a song on the radio) which we did and our baby cried for less than half a song, fell asleep and slept thru the night from then on. As long as she was in a crib in our bedroom she never slept thru the night. No matter how small your space, give the baby their own space and shut the door. This has worked with all 3 of our kids!
If you are not taking Cal Mag while nursing you may want to try it. It really is a sleep saver. If you are a coffee or caffeinated tea drinker and nurse, the problem of not staying asleep will only worsen and cause a lot of discomforts in many ways to your infant. This also goes for eating sugar items as well.
Your infant will benefit from the Cal Mag in many ways. First he will sleep better and longer; it will help when he starts to teethe; it will help his bones to be better and stronger.
Having him in bed with you is wonderful but if you feel you have to put him in the crib, get a water mattress and a heating blanket that fits the crib. The water mattress is like being in the cushy womb; put the heating or electric blanket on top of the mattress, mattress cover and blankets that he will be covered in and warm everything up before placing him in the crib; remove the heating blanket; never cover the baby with it as it has an electrical current flowing throw it. Putting a baby on a cold mattress can wake them up when you put them down to sleep. Encourage your baby to move his body by placing toys that dangle above him and that he can reach. Like for adults, exercise does wonders for a good night sleep. Hope this helps.
I feel for you! This type of situation is very hard on Mom, I know from personal experience. I was a walking zombie for many months. My son had similar sleeping habits and that's really all this is - your baby's sleep patterns are not formed yet. Is your baby napping frequently during the day and for long stretches? If so, he's on a reverse pattern with his day and night being mixed up, because you want him on the longer sleep patterns at night.
To handle this, you are going to have to try to keep him awake more during the day and gradually get his patterns reversed. If not, it could be that your milk is not holding him since breast milk is so easily digested and as babies grow very rapidly, they need a lot of food. You could try formula or barley formula just before you put him down for the night, it may fill up his tummy and hold him better.
I forget at what age to introduce solids, but I think you can do cereal at 4 months and perhaps a cereal feeding before bedtime might work to hold his hunger longer too. I didn't do formula or barley, as I thought breast milk was best, but when I had to go back to work, I had to come up with a solution. So what I did was tell him that I was going to let him cry through one feeding, but rather than let him do this by himself, I stood there and patted his back & rocked the crib gently until he went back to sleep. I would gently remind him that he needed to start sleeping through the night. When he picked his head up, I would gently push it down and hold it for a second and tell him that needed to go to sleep. Within a few nights (and he did cry in protest, which is really hard to listen too), he slept for a longer stretch. I kept eliminating one feeding period (always telling him what I was going to do and patting his back and rocking the crib) over time until he was sleeping for longer stretches. Please note that this took a while to work him through this.
Finally when he was about 6 or 7 months, I let him cry through the last feeding and from that point on, he slept mostly 6 to 8 hours at a stretch. I also kept my baby awake more during the day as he would sleep 3 to 4 hours for a nap during the day as he did have his sleep patterns mixed up. Also, as he began to eat solid foods, he began to sleep better too.
Raising a child is certainly an adventure! By the way - my "baby" with the sleep problems is now 23 years old! I also have a 13 year old, so my baby experience is a lot more recent than that!
Here's some possibilities: He's going through a growth spurt and needs to eat more (which keeps you up too), OR your baby may be teething.
You can try Locational Assists (from the book Assists for Illnesses and Injuries) just before bed, point to things and tell him to look at them and then acknowledge him.
Get a crib at the same height as your bed, take off one side and push them together. Baby has a space but is nearby. If he's healthy and happy, and good indicators most of the time then there's most likely no problem, just something he's growing through.
I have to tell you, the one thing that terrified me about being pregnant with #3 was the fear of NO SLEEP. I lived through it - he's now 16! So sleep as much as you can when the baby sleeps, don't drink too much coffee or caffeine drinks.
Crying to sleep doesn't really help. A couple minutes of squawking about sleep is one thing, we get annoyed about missing things even as babies and protest. But long crying doesn't help.
There's also what seems to be a phase of not sleeping unless mom or dad walks with the baby. All I can say is you live through it. Don't give up. And breastfeeding is the BEST thing to do. If the situation gets too much, contact a local branch of La Leche League. Their only purpose is to help moms nurse.
My favorite solution was a swing. Get a good, quiet, battery powered swing and let him swing and fall asleep in there. It was recommended to me as a solution and I've recommended it to many others. You'll get more sleep too. Also, make sure you are eating properly and that you are not eating anything that might cause problems with your milk quality.
First, I want to assure you that sooner or later he'll grow out of his sleeping troubles. Don't stress about it, although I appreciate you might not want your sleep to be so broken.
Second, make sure his bed is really comfortable - not too hot, not too cold, not drafty, not too noisy, not too soft, not too hard, etc. etc.
Third, I don’t agree with letting them cry it out either. I tried that once with one of my daughters; waited a half-hour which seemed like a day, finally she quieted down and when I went in she was still awake, just too exhausted to cry any more. I gave up on that idea. Unfortunately with that particular daughter she somehow had her radar set to her dad who came home late at night. She just would NOT go to sleep until he was home. Well, sometimes she fell asleep on the sofa. The issue then was going to sleep at a reasonable time in the evening.
Fourth, and this is very important I think, make sure the baby is getting enough nutrition. If his diet is 100% breast milk don't worry about this any more than making sure you yourself are really, really well-nourished. It might be that he just digests the breast milk quickly and needs to replenish, in which case things won't change that much for a bit. If he's getting other nutrition, make sure it's really good too. His body uses that sleep time to grow, and it grows based on what's in his stomach, so if his body has digested what's in his stomach he'll wake up and ask for more.
Your baby definitely should get used to sleeping in his bed, but you'll have to feel your way with it. I had three kids in five years and between the three of them it was quite a few years before I slept through the night without anyone at all waking me up. If he's happy, smiling, healthy, you might have to just live with the broken nights for a bit and he'll grow out of it.
When wrapped like a burrito (swaddled), they tend to sleep longer. Also, the better the quality of food is that you eat, (i.e. organic greens, fruits and veggies) the better your baby's sleep.
My daughter was a pretty good sleeper but my son was not. In fact, he protested sleep. I nursed him for about two half years for two reasons: he liked it and it helped me get him to sleep.
What I did to try and solve the problem and to make the best of it until he finally slept through the night was this: I bought a mattress when he was three months; no box spring so it was low to the ground in case he rolled out. I put it in his bedroom and would lay with him nursing. If I was tired I would just pass out too and later I would wake up and get in bed with my husband. I found I would get a little more sleep this way. I also tried feeding him avocado and banana around 3 to 4 months but I didn't notice much difference. I would make sure not to drink any caffeine while nursing and that made a difference.
I had the same problem with both of my girls. I used Natural Calm from Peter Gillham's and now they carry a Calm product specifically for babies. If you aren't bottle feeding then you can drink the Calm yourself and nurse him. He'll get it through you.
Do you have the book “No Cry Sleep Solution”? It is not about the “cry it out” method. My daughter is 4 and I am just now getting her into her own bed. I went through this and breastfed for 2 years.
Check out the book “No Cry Sleep Solution” or any book by Dr. Sears. He hates crying it out. You should find him most helpful. Also, I really recommend a co-sleeper. This will give your little darling some more room while allowing him to remain next to you for easy reach when he needs to nurse.
I have experienced with my children as well as others that the problem with sleep is actually a problem of some other origin. The first thing I did and told others to do was to get the baby adjusted by a good chiropractor. This sometimes solved the problem all by itself. For example, a woman came into a chiropractic office that I worked at because her baby had not slept well for 8 months. The chiropractor said the baby was actually in pain, and with one adjustment went home and slept well from then forward. The mom then just brought the child in for a regular check up to make sure the girl remained well adjusted. We had a lot of bed-wetters remedied by adjustment too.
The other thing I have seen is that a young baby can be reacting to something the mother is eating as the baby gets it via the breast milk. A friend was having sleep problems with her 3-4 month old. She had other children so she was a very experienced mom. I suggested she go to a chiropractor and she had amazing results. Seems the baby was reacting to corn. The mom stopped eating corn and corn products and the baby slept like an angel. Hope this helps and that you are all sleeping peacefully soon!
I do not have a total solution, but we have a 1-year-old toddler who is quite active at night and was also active as a baby. I believe each baby has to be handled individually, even though for all of them the quiet environment is a must and works marvels.
My boy was easier to manage as a baby, as my wife would take him to our bed and breastfeed him. That would keep him quiet and would allow her (and me) to sleep. My boy used to wake up 5 times a night. My wife would simply give him her nipple and he'd calm down. The "give him the nipple" trick was advice from my wife’s aunt who had 4 boys and was also a peasant; having to juggle a tight schedule, sleep, housekeeping, work in the fields and raising babies. In order not to lose sleep at night she would simply keep the crib next to her bed so that when the boy or girl woke up, she'd connect him or her to the milk supply and carry on sleeping.
Up to 6 months when we started weaning our boy, this is what my wife did and it worked. By the way, you should know that babies who are breastfed grow much faster than those who eat other stuff, and a mother's milk is absorbed much faster. A baby's need and want for food is very high and is usually the most common cause of distress along with lack of sleep, cold temperature and trouble with the digestive tract, so it is not uncommon that your boy wakes up so often.
He's probably hungry. As you start weaning him, you should also gradually get him to sleep in his own bed. Currently, with our boy (finally weaned) what we do is we have him fall asleep and then when he is sound asleep we put him in his own bed. Sometimes he is not falling asleep even if he is very tired, just because he is TOO tired. In this case we simply place him in his own bed and let him protest, until he falls asleep. It seems cruel but in fact it gives him the peace to fall asleep as he needs. Halfway through the night my boy wants to come to our bed and we take him and need to "endure" his vitality. On the long run he eventually falls asleep again until morning and this is our current routine.
A reason of discomfort for my boy that interferes with the sleep is the fact that he is teething. You may not have this problem now, but will in a few months. He is more often than not quite restless and I think that he will be so until all of his teeth are in (we are halfway through, thank God).
I read a lot of books on baby sleep issues as well, and the book that I followed advised against the "cry it out" method. Crying is a baby’s way of speaking and letting them cry it out is ignoring their communication.
In the book that I read, the author said "You are not spoiling your baby by picking them up whenever they cry". They need nurturing and that is what mommies are for. I moved the crib, so that it was right next to my bed and put a recliner in our bedroom. When she woke up crying, I would nurse her and when she fell asleep, I put her back in her crib. Sometimes I would nap in the recliner while breast feeding.
Another important point is to make sure that you are eating a good diet. No caffeine or stimulants of any kind. Eating all-natural fruits and veggies and good meat proteins really does help. It will make your breast milk very nutritious and the baby will sleep longer without getting hungry and waking up.
There are also these all-natural drops at Whole Foods market that you rub on your nipples and they help handle any gas that the baby may have. It is very common for babies to get gassy (even breastfed ones) and the pain of the gas at night will wake them up crying.
These are the things that I suggest, having breastfed for a year and a half. I always went to her crib and picked her up when she cried. Babies don't have many other ways of communicating at this time other than crying, so we have to listen to them.
My daughter is 12 now going on 13 and she has always been very confident and independent. This is the opposite of what many books will tell you. The children who are ignored are the ones that become insecure and needy when they are older. This is just my own opinion based on my own observation. It may not be true for everyone. I hope this helps.
Where the baby sleeps is every parent’s personal decision. The situation that allows everybody to get the most sleep is great. Here is some info about baby’s sleep and the survival value of a baby waking at night. When Will My Baby Sleep Through the Night? http://www.llli.org/FAQ/sleep.html
The link is from an organization called La Leche League, a breastfeeding educational and support group founded by seven moms in the fifties who did not listen to their doctors about “formula feeding being better.” There are other links in the FAQ section that may be of interest.
A baby’s stomach is only as big as his fist and breast milk is so easily digestible it is necessary for frequent feedings when the baby is so small. A lot of moms say after they learned to nurse laying down they turned a corner and it was quite manageable, even pleasurable. There are alternative books at the end of the article at the link above that do not say to cry it out. They advocate a “loving guidance” type of discipline where a parent responds to the baby’s communication. There are also monthly LLL meetings, a day one and night one, for sharing information regarding breastfeeding.
I hope you find the information you need in order to make the best decision for you and your family.
There's a good book called "The Attachment Parenting Book" by Wm. Sears MD and there is a group called Attachment Parenting International who has a blog and articles on all aspects of Attachment Parenting as well as local support groups. You can Google their site, get their newsletter or contact them for advice.
LLL (La Leche League) also offers a wealth of information on the subject of co-sleeping and getting sleep yourself. I raised eight children using Attachment Parenting which involves co-sleeping and breastfeeding and I taught Attachment Parenting in my Childbirth Classes for thirty-three years. It was my experience that it was the absolute easiest way for a lazy mom like me to simply enjoy my kids and respect them as equal human beings while keeping them safely near me at all times while their bodies grow.
Good luck and well done looking for an answer and not just sticking your child down the hall in a room. Remember they call SIDS "crib death" for a reason. It only happens when the baby is alone in a crib. If they can't hear your breathing and heartbeat for a reference then they can actually forget to breathe.
I have a two year old and an eight week old and am nursing both of them. I’ve found that the better I eat, the better they sleep. Also, I am taking this amazing oxygenic B vitamin by Nutri * Spec. It's awesome and has really helped.
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